How often do you experience envy?
Are you even aware of it when it arises?
Envy is one of those insidious emotions that can ruin the experience of feeling (and ultimately having) your desires. It can also stop you dead in your tracks from going after and receiving your own dreams.
I had a falling out with a friend about 5 years ago. Last October I was randomly browsing Facebook and one of her recent posts popped up on my feed. It described an incredible success she'd been having in her business.
I "couldn't help myself" so I Google'd her business, visited her Twitter page, and read an abundance of rave reviews about her work.
By the end of this exercise in self-flagellation, I felt drained upset, and deeply envious.
Can you relate to this?
Fortunately, I was aware enough (of my emotional state and of the thoughts running a racket in between my ears) that I was able to identify what the real thing was behind all this emotion.
That thing was my desire.
It was my desire to create an impact in my work in the way that I saw that she had.
It was my desire to attract collaborators and help for my business in that I saw that she had.
And that's where the energy softens.
One of the ways to transmute the energy of ENVY into POWER, CONFIDENCE, andCONNECTION is to get in touch with your desire.👭
The initial hit of Envy in and of itself isn't necessarily a bad thing.
It's what you do with it!
Here's your assignment...if you're ready to accept this mission!
Start with this next time Envy hits.
1. Look at your underlying desire. What do you want that the other person has?
2. Is there some part of you that doesn't think you can have it?
Let me know how it goes!
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I've been thinking a lot recently about envy in relation to social media.
You're feeling all fine about life then come across a Facebook friend's post and soon afterwards your feel-good juju turns to sadness or this pervasive sense that something's actually wrong. You should be doing more. You should be doing something else. This isn't enough.
The acronym used to describe this phenomenon is FOMO, or Fear of Missing Out.
In the video below, I describe a recent experience kicking FOMO's arse.
What do you to keep the envy gremlins at bay?
Words to Live By
Be super kind to yourself.