I was amped, stoked, in action, then I stalled. I wouldn't touch it, look at it, didn't even want to think about it.
I'm talking about my book.
I'm the Author of the upcoming book Feel Good Kick Ass Confidence: Using Your Body to Rock Your Life.
But 3 months ago, I stopped working on it. My perfectionist came to the surface. I judged everything I'd already written, refusing to write anything else because I would just judge that too.
And then last weekend came around.
I was my publisher's Get Your Book Done camp. Being with him for 3 days straight in a community of other Authors all working on our books was friggin' AMAZING.
I experienced a shift.
I came back into relationship with my book, adding pages and pages of content.
I secured an editor and formatter.
My fire for my book is back.
The keys to this: structure and community.
I had a structure: Fri-Sun from 9am to 7pm I was in a room working on the book under the guidance of my mentor.
I had community: The energy of others working on the same thing is INVALUABLE to the life of the thing I'm working on.
Now that the camp is over, I'm setting up ongoing structure and community to COMPLETE my dream and desire of finishing this book.
What about you?
Which of your desires needs to be resuscitated? Is it to change jobs, start your own business, or get promoted in your current work? Is your next desire to lose 15 lbs?
You don't have to do this alone - and you shouldn't.
Community and structure are KEY to bringing your desires from make-believe to physical reality.
And to support you with community and structure (and fun), I'm facilitating The Rock Your Life Danceshop(TM) on Saturday, May 28, 2016 in Los Angeles.
This event is designed to help you have your dream job(s) and relationships in your dream body image through Latin, House, African, and Zumba dance.
I would love for you to experience the Danceshop with the existing people in your community. Bring 10 people and automatically receive a $35 Lululemon gift card + your Danceshop registration is free. This is not a drawing. The gift card is yours. Email me right now and confirm this as your registration option.
Additional Registration options:
2. Register now for one ticket - $10 in advance (Register at https://squareup.com/store/feel-good-kick-ass/item/rock-your-life-danceshop-tm)
3. Bring 3 people and your registration is free. Email email@example.com to make arrangements.
4. Pay $15 at the door
Once you've registered you and your peeps, make it a goal to spark a connection with another Danceshop attendee that can last beyond May 28.
You never know who you'll meet, and the kind of support you'll receive to bring more and more desires into existence down the line!
The choreography was playing a serious game of twister with my mind and body. This was Urban Hip Hop class and I was straight up L O S T two-thirds of the way into the routine.
Teacher man would run the choreo and I’d analyze his movements, doing them along with him. But then he stopped running the moves with us completely. And I stopped dancing.
Our befuddlement was so palpable that it inspired him to say, “What are you guys going to do when I stop dancing with you? Y’all gotta stop relying on me for the moves.”
Hmmm. Y’all gotta stop relying on me for the moves.
My silent rebuttal: “But I don’t know what the hell I’m doing. So how can I not look at you?”
Contrary to his playful threat, Mr. Teach did continue running the moves with us (and adding more) for the rest of the class; however, I tried a different approach. I stopped looking at him so hard. I only looked at him for reference and spent most of the time focusing on my movements; thereby forcing my brain to actually recall what we had been working on. Then I was able to take ownership of the movements and make them mine. And I had fun.
In flipping how I approached this insanely challenging class, I found that the opposite of my original thinking was true: I was lost because I was relying more on the teacher than I was relying on myself. To my surprise, I retained the choreography better and walked out of class feeling like I actually danced. I felt good and I was proud of myself.
Was it a fluke? I tried it out in another challenging class – West African. Mr. Teacher taught a rather involved sequence of moves. My initial thought, “Ugh, how am I going to remember this?” But I used him as reference instead of go-to from the get-go. I also softened my gaze and took in the big picture, seeing myself in relation to the other dancers in the room. This expanded my references and released my reliance on any one person. Class was a success. I had a great time; I creatively expressed myself and I retained the choreography.
Teachers guide, but they’re not there to play the game nor dance the dance for us. There comes a point when we have to take our eyes off the instructor and make the dance our own.
Do you tend to rely more on a guru than on yourself? Do you use teachers, mentors, and guides as crutches rather than stepping stones? I challenge you to shift your focus from them onto yourself.
Mindset: I can’t do it on my own. It’s too hard.
Mindshift: Hard does not mean impossible. Challenges are opportunities for growth. I’m willing to take the leap and trust myself, thereby putting the teachers in my life in their appropriate place.
And these are the classes I'm talking about...
Words to Live By
Be super kind to yourself.