In my previous blog post How to transform envy to fuel your Desire, I shared about a former friend who I felt envious of when I saw how successful her business appeared to be.
Today I'm going to talk a little more about how envy fueled a specific desire I wasn't even aware of and...how I got that desire two weeks ago.
So I have this new friend I met during a coaching/personal and professional development program I've been deeply immersed in since April of this year. (Let's call my new friend Cynthia).
This program has exponentialized my skill as a coach, at helping my private coaching clients resolve their desires and create juice to bring those desires to pass.
One month ago, Cynthia and I were in a small group of people just chit chatting away. Another gal who wasn't present, Brooke, got brought up in the conversation. To which Cynthia said, "Oh yeah, Brooke. She's my client."
David goes, "Oh you mean like the peer coaching we do?"
Cynthia: "No, I mean as in Brooke hired me to coach her around this very specific thing I'm really good at and she struggles with."
In that moment, I felt a pang of envy. Although I didn't have the words to articulate it then, the desire beneath the envy was this: I wanted someone in our coaching program to see something in me that they want in their life so much so that they'd hire me to coach them to help them receive it.
I felt that envy. I felt the desire. I let it pass. And didn't think about it again really...until yesterday.
I received a text message from a gal in our program, asking to do an exploratory session with me, to help her identify and get really clear about the things she is most desiring in her life professionally, romantically, and with her health.
We scheduled our exploratory call for today.
By the end of the call, she hired me to coach her in bringing her desires to fruition.
In one month, I have received the desire that was masked by my envy.
Remember my friendly challenge to you at the end of my previous post? Well, I have a modification for you today.
Try this out next time Envy pays you visit:
1. Look at your underlying desire. What do you want that the other person has?
2. Once you've clearly identified what the driving force desire is, great! Go about the business of living your life and don't spend much, or any, mental energy thinking about it.
I won't make any guarantees that you'll receive your desire in one month.
What I will say though, is that you can get in relationship with your envy and use it as your ally to pull your desires into your life.
Words to Live By
Be super kind to yourself.