This photo represents me giving myself permission 12 years ago to pursue a dream to be a TV host.
A year before that, I denied that desire by giving in to my doubts.
The main one: I thought I was too ugly and too fat to be seen on camera.
Until I met my then-boyfriend.
As our relationship developed, I told him about this dream.
Before I moved to L.A., I daydreamed about getting an agent, going on auditions, booking work.
But then I got here and my insecurities shot through the roof. I thought I needed an agent before I could go on auditions and I didn't think I could get an agent because I thought I was too ugly.
My guy showed me otherwise. Sitting on one side of my bed in my first apartment in Hollywood, I told him my dream and my doubt.
And he told me (I paraphrase), "Valerie, you're gorgeous and beautiful enough right now to shoot some videos and make this happen. You could shoot some videos today."
His words, his energy, his love relaxed me.
His sentiments introduced the thought: Well, maybe I can actually do this.
Shortly after that, I got to work. I told myself I didn't need an agent to start my journey.
I told myself, I can start being a host now by getting a camera and going around town recording myself interviewing and profiling people and places.
I started thinking, where can I get a camera?
I asked my parents for a Flip Cam for my birthday present.
I started thinking, what kinds of shows would I most want to audition for?
My answer: Dance and movement-related.
Then I created a series of videos of me doing just that. I created a YouTube account and uploaded the videos.
I learned simple editing and put together my own reels and, in time, reached out to talent agents with those reels.
The third agent I reached out to brought me on as a client.
I went on auditions.
I booked work.
I'm willing to bet that you've got a dream you haven't experienced yet. Maybe more than one.
You salivate when you imagine it. You're hungry for it.
But you're not doing anything to make it a reality.
Because the pain of anticipated disappointment is larger than your belief that your dream will happen. (I can help you with this!)
So you accept the current state of affairs in your life and you try to forget that dream.
Because you've given in to your doubt.
And you haven't given yourself permission to HAVE this dream in your life.
But you can give yourself permission today.
What I learned from my then-boyfriend is that we need others to encourage us and to be safe sounding boards.
As a life coach, I'm a professional encourager, thought partner, guide, and mindset ninja.
For an entire year.
Come on now!
With this kind of support, imagine yourself exactly one year from today.
What will you have given yourself permission to do, be, and have?
Which doubts will you have eradicated?
Let's find out!
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My name's Valerie and I'm a Certified Life Coach with a background in teaching dance as well as facilitating diversity, equity, and inclusion professional development conversations and workshops.