I had a free life coaching consultation with a woman we’ll call Baxter. She works as an assistant in the health industry and was having a hard time communicating with her colleagues and other folk she wanted to connect with.
Baxter had a habit of only exchanging hi's and bye's with these people. She was constantly hesitating what to do and what to say.
She didn't really have people to talk to about this except for family. She thought her people challenges were about more than just being shy. She identifies as an introvert living in an extroverted world.
"Valerie, I have trouble taking risks and getting out of my comfort zone. I want to switch careers. I want to help people. I want something more."
I told Baxter that second-guessing and overthinking comes from not trusting yourself, not trusting your own decisions. When someone says they're afraid of taking risks, it’s because they don’t trust that they will be OK emotionally if things don’t go the way they wanted.
I told her that I'd show her how to work with her mind and emotions so she's equipped to take regular healthy risks AND feel safe that she'll be OK, no matter the outcome.
I told her about my Confident Communicator Coaching Package. I painted her a picture of trusting herself and acting on her intuition, without second- and third-guessing herself.
I invited her to imagine having deep and meaningful conversations with her colleagues and also hanging out and having fun with them. She told me about the romantic relationship she ultimately wanted, with a partner who adores her and cares for her. And that she could do the same for.
I asked Baxter to consider that through coaching she would learn to trust her intuition and have the conversations and interactions that she’d been scared to have, while honoring and respecting who she is as an introvert and empath.
Aside from the inner work, I’d also teach her practical assertive communication skills and techniques.
This is the kind of thing that unfolds during a life coaching consultation. I prefer to call ‘em Powerful Coaching Conversations because that’s what they are. Whether or not a client moves forward with long-term coaching, magic and clarity happens inside the conversation. So does laughter, meditation, and appreciation.
Another topic of discussion inside the consultation is this:
What stands between you and a secret dream or desire you want, but don’t think you can have?
Several years ago, mine was staying up too late. I was unhappy with my office job, and my cathartic release was living vicariously through shows and movies. It was also a form of procrastination because the later I went to bed, the later I got up to do the rat race again. The downside was irritability, low energy, insomnia, lower outlook on life, anger, frustration, shorter temper, and the prolonging of what I wanted most.
Steep prices to pay for the temporary relief staying up late provided.
My desire was to create and flourish sustainable professions as a life coach, presenter, and teaching artist.
My desire was to design a work-life outside the traditional 9-to-5, a work life that utilized every talent and skill I love practicing. (Both of which I’ve done btw).
Change is possible. Inevitable. When you show up for it.
And, often, the only way people show up for that level of change is with weekly accountability and guidance in the form of coaching. That’s what I did in my own journey. And now this is what I help others do.
As a Certified Life Coach and Author, helping others create lasting change is my jam.
I offer complimentary consultations for up to 1 hour. During this powerful conversation:
You have nothing to to lose here, except whatever's holding you back from the life you say you want.
My name's Valerie and I'm a Certified Life Coach with a background in teaching dance as well as facilitating diversity, equity, and inclusion professional development conversations and workshops.